A Post About Stuff That Didn’t Fit Anywhere Else

This post is just a bit of a rambling collection of things I wanted to share with you. They are just some things that I believe are important if you’re going to move along a path to a more contented life. Life will always be unpredictable, it will always be unsafe, you’ll never be able to make it secure. Trying is a fools errand. Facing life the way it is takes courage but when you do face life as it is, you start to live life with a sense of urgency and vitality. These are some random things that I felt didn’t warrant full posts on their own:

1. The relationship you have with yourself is the most important one you’ll ever have. All other relationships mirror the type of relationship you have with yourself. I’m a big believer in the maxim than the way a person treats other people is a good indicator of how they treat themselves. It’s why you’re often given the advice on a date to pay attention to how your date treats the wait staff!

2. Filter all the decisions you have to make through your core values (if you don’t know what they are, sign up for my newsletter to get the free gift I’ve made for you and get started on what your core values are around work…you can extend this process to your core values about life). If there is a disconnect or something feels out of alignment, spend a bit of time reflecting on why. Would taking that job compromise something that’s really important to you? If something jars, figure out what you need to do to move back to a place of ease and effortlessness.

3. Crack down on critical self-talk. Pay attention to whether or not the conversations you have with yourself are positive, negative or neutral. Remember – you teach others how to treat you by how you treat yourself. So while you think you may be being cool, off-hand and low maintenance with your new fella, consider that you might be signaling to him that it’s OK to treat you coolly, in an off-hand manner and that you/your relationship does need regular maintenance.

4. Become your biggest cheerleader. If you believe you can do it then you will do it. Tell yourself “If someone has to do, why can’t it be me?”

Tamarisk runs a niche counselling practice for women who can’t shake the feeling that their lives look good on paper but suck in real life.

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